Couple or Relationship Therapy

Among the common reasons partners separate or divorce is the experience of growing apart or the recurrence of conflicts and arguments. When complicated by unfaithfulness or infidelity/betrayal, it can be the final undoing of the relationship, but healing is still possible. For those who identify with collectivistic cultures, conflict with extended family, challenges to fulfilling expected roles or social stigma can all lead to a breakdown of relationship. Sociocultural issues (e.g. systemic racism, economic strain or stress from adapting to more than one culture) can also affect intimacy and closeness. In interpersonal interactions, these difficult elements often appear as emotional distance, absence of closeness, lack of emotional safety, lingering wounds, and broken trust.

If you are feeling the emotional distance, missing the closeness you know once was there, or no longer feeling secure in your relationship although remain committed to working on your relationship, I am able to help.

I support and guide partners ready to be self-reflective and own parts of themselves back to their emotions, to feeling and understanding their internal emotional experiences, to lovingly hold their loved ones’ pain, and to share their inner worlds. I provide a space where we can pause and slow down to help you recognize your own self-patterns and your patterns in relation to your partner. I can help you each understand what gets in the way of your sharing, support each other address the obstacles together, and co-create your own relational culture that reflects the closeness, trust and emotional safety you desire.

To the extent you and your partner have already decided to part ways and could use support to move through separating amicably and collaboratively, I can help. We can clarify the areas you each find challenging, identify a way to address it, including any residual unaddressed emotions, and I can help you co-create a way of relating with compassion moving forward.

We could be a if you and your partner are each on the same page about your relationship goal(s).

We are likely not a fit if you and your partner are currently undecided about whether to stay or end your relationship, and need help clarifying which path to choose. If so, you may consider discernment counseling.